Being a Young Grandfather

How old are your grandparents? The chances are that they are in their late 50s or early 60s if you’re lucky. It’s, however, important to note that it’s possible to become a grandparent in your early 30s. Did you just read the 30s? Yes. Being a grandparent at a young age can happen when you marry someone with children from an earlier marriage. Despite the fact that this will make you a step-grandfather or step-grandmother, you’re still a grandparent. Most people consider the difference to be academic.

On the other hand, you can become a young grandfather when your 21-year-old daughter becomes expectant. The same can happen when your 22-year-old son and his wife become expectant. All these are scenarios that lead to one becoming a young grandparent. It’s a good thing to know that you have a grandson or a granddaughter. Right? The problem is that you won’t feel like a grandfather. So, what can you do? The truth of the matter is that being a young grandparent can be a real shock on your ego. The American Association of Retired Persons indicates that the average age of first time grandparents in the United States is about forty-seven. Of course, no one feels old at this age.

Understand that your life will change in a way as soon as that grandchild shows up, no matter how you feel or how you’ve prepared yourself. Here are a few things that can help you make the transition less jarring.

Welcome Change

In most cases, young grandparents usually have a difficult time agreeing to the fact that they are grandparents. They just can see themselves as grandparents. Well, what everyone knows about being a grandfather the gray-haired and curmudgeonly individual that the media portrays. The first thing you need to do is to agree that you’re getting older, despite not being “old.” Welcome the change and continue living your life. However, it’s important that you don’t miss out the opportunity of spending time with your grandchildren.

No Turf Wars

The last thing you probably remember about your grandfather is that he was gray-haired and a respected and revered member of the family. Well, this might not be the case with you. In fact, your parents could still be around. The fact that your wise grandfather played a role in how you were brought up doesn’t mean either you or your parents should have a bigger voice on how your grandchild ought to be raised. Let your son and his wife choose who can advise them on how to raise their child. There’s no need for turf wars.

Saying “No” Most times

You’ll realize that your son or daughter is counting on you for help while raising their child. As mentioned, you have to welcome the change which, in this case, will demand that you make significant changes in your daily schedule. Since you’re a young grandparent, it means you could still be working and possibly raising some of your younger children. That means it won’t be easy. However, you shouldn’t forget that you need time to spend with your grandchild. That’s why you have to make changes in your schedule and avoid saying no to your son or daughter when he or she needs your help.

What are the Advantages of Being a Young Grandfather?

We both know that there are obstacles one is likely to face when he’s a young grandfather. From career pressures to time stress, there’s a lot you have to endure as a young grandparent. However, being young means, you can easily get down and spend some time playing with your grandchildren and get up more easily. Furthermore, you’re less likely to need a nap during your grandchild visits. You can also get in tune with your grandchild’s interests as you stay motivated to keep playing, learning, and moving. Remember, to ensure a healthy grandfather-grandchild relationship; you have to be together with your grandchild.